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Life can often feel like an uphill battle. Between work stresses, relationship struggles, health issues, and the endless complications that come with simply existing in the modern world, it’s easy to feel weighed down. But what if I told you that you hold the keys to your own freedom and fulfillment?

There are three core pillars that you must master in order to stop holding yourself back and start loving your life at the highest level: cherishing yourself, acceptance, and responsibility. Embody these pillars in your daily life, and you will find untold joy, ease, and liberation.

These are the 3 pillars we work on inside my Live Free Love Life membership. So if any of this speaks to you, please consider joining my membership as one of the greatest gifts you could ever give yourself.

Pillar #1: Cherish Yourself

The foundation of a fulfilling life is self-love.

The common phrase is “love yourself,” but I intentionally chose the word “cherish” because it implies a deeper, more sacred form of self-love. To cherish yourself is to hold your inner being in the highest regard, to treat yourself as precious, and to see your existence itself as a miracle.

Cherishing goes beyond the surface-level self-love of treating yourself to a nice bath or pedicure. It’s an unwavering devotion to caring for the depths of your soul. To cherish yourself is to make your inner light the very center of your world, your guiding North Star. It transforms mere self-love into soul-love. Cherishing who you are at the core unlocks fulfillment on the deepest level.

When you cherish yourself, you give yourself the care, attention, and nurturing you need to thrive. As spiritual teacher Osho explains:

“If you cannot love yourself, you cannot love anybody else. First start with yourself.”

Loving yourself fully allows you to approach all areas of life from a place of wholeness rather than lack. Relationship expert Dr. Nicole LaPera notes:

“How we treat ourselves is how we teach others to treat us. When we have poor boundaries, don’t honor our needs, and abandon ourselves, we send out the signal that we don’t deserve care and respect.”

Research shows that people with high self-compassion have healthier relationships due to their ability to set boundaries, communicate desires, and meet their own needs.

Studies also reveal that self-love boosts motivation. When you cherish yourself, you believe you deserve your dreams, fueling you to take inspired action. Therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab explains:

“When you love yourself, you want the best for yourself. You treat yourself with kindness and care, protecting your energy and needs. You make self-care a priority.”

Loving yourself is the key that unlocks your highest potential in all facets of life. Your relationships blossom, your career flourishes, your health optimizes. Life becomes joyful when you cherish your inner being.

Pillar #2: Acceptance

In addition to self-love, accepting reality as it is allows you to live a liberated life. When you argue against the present moment, you create your own suffering. Spiritual teacher Matt Kahn describes it poetically:

“Fighting what is increases sorrow. Flowing with what is creates freedom.”

Acceptance is not a passive surrender but rather an active embracing of what is showing up right now. Research shows that accepting emotions and thoughts rather than resisting them reduces stress and promotes psychological well-being.

Acceptance also prevents trying to force situations that ultimately cannot be controlled. As therapist Kirk Honda notes:

“Acceptance is learning to dance with life and to flow with change as it unfolds rather than trying to control everything.”

Part of acceptance is releasing attachment to desired outcomes. When you accept things as they are, you remain open to possibilities rather than rigidly attached to a preconceived notion of how life should be. Teacher Michael Singer explains:

“Attachment is the source of all suffering. Non-attachment allows you to flow with life and let go of needing it to be a certain way.”

Accepting the present moment exactly as it is allows you to access peace, freedom and tranquility. Life becomes a graceful dance rather than a constant battle.

Pillar #3: Responsibility

The final pillar of a fulfilling life is taking personal responsibility. When you transition from blaming external factors to empowering yourself, you step into your true power. Professor Jordan Peterson notes:

“The acceptance of personal responsibility is a transformation from child to adult.”

Taking responsibility includes owning your mistakes and shortcomings rather than making excuses. It’s acknowledging your role in relationships rather than seeing yourself as a helpless victim. Therapist Kirk Honda explains:

“Part of being responsible is recognizing how you contribute to problems rather than placing blame solely on others.”

It’s also about taking the reigns of your own life rather than waiting for someone else to swoop in. Author Mark Manson writes:

“The most important thing in life is taking responsibility for your own life. You cannot change what other people do or think. The only thing you can control is you.”

When it comes to taking responsibility, here are some of the areas we focus on in Live Free Love Life:

  • Your thoughts – Taking responsibility for your inner narrative and thought patterns; owning your stories
  • Your emotions – Owning your emotional reactions rather than blaming others
  • Your actions/behavior – Being conscious of your actions and taking ownership of them; being the person you want to be
  • Your needs – Honoring your needs and filling them (without expecting others to)
  • Your desires – Owning and expressing your desires rather than suppressing them
  • Your relationships – Acknowledging your role in relationships and conflicts; creating the kind of relationships you want
  • Your boundaries – Setting healthy boundaries and reinforcing them
  • Your body – Taking care of your physical health through nutrition, exercise, sleep etc.
  • Your spending – Monitoring your finances and spending consciously
  • Your clutter – Keeping your living/work environment tidy and organized
  • Your words – Speaking thoughtfully and constructively
  • Your integrity – Sticking to your principles and values
  • Your contributions – Acknowledging your role in relationships and situations
  • Your growth – Proactively developing yourself and expanding your potential
  • Your conditioning – Healing trauma and reprogramming limiting beliefs
  • Your impact – Considering how your actions affect others
  • Your energy – Protecting your energy by choosing interactions mindfully (internal and external)
  • Your time – Spending your time intentionally on priorities
  • Your care for others – Balancing care for others with self-care
  • Your space – Cultivating a home environment that nourishes you
  • Your talents – Identifying and optimizing your innate gifts and skills
  • Your well-being – Making your mental, emotional, and physical health a priority
  • Your purpose – Aligning your life with your unique raison d’être (your reason or justification for existence)
  • Your presence – Showing up fully in each moment and interaction

When you take responsibility in all facets of life, you empower yourself to create fulfillment on your own terms.

Studies show that an internal locus of control – the belief that you are in control of your life outcomes – is linked to greater health, success, and life satisfaction.

Taking responsibility comes with an incredible sense of freedom and empowerment. Your life is no longer happening to you but through you. The choice is yours to claim.

Questions to Consider

  1. In what areas are you not cherishing yourself?
    1. Why?
    2. How is that holding you back or limiting you?
    3. What would it take to start cherishing yourself?
  2. What are you resisting rather than accepting?
    1. Why?
    2. How is that holding you back or limiting you?
    3. What would it take to step into radical acceptance?
  3. Where are you not taking responsibility?
    1. Which of the areas listed above need the most attention?
    2. How might your life change if you step into responsibility?
    3. What’s holding you back from taking responsibility?

Embody the Pillars, Love Your Life

When you consistently nurture these three pillars – cherishing yourself, accepting life as it unfolds, and taking personal responsibility – your life is transformed. You are no longer weighed down by self-judgment, resistance, or disempowerment.

Instead, you move through each moment with grace, ease, and joy. Your relationships reflect the love you have cultivated within. You pursue your purpose unencumbered by doubt. Hardships come and go like passing clouds.

Master these three pillars and you hold the keys to freedom and fulfillment. A life saturated in self-love, acceptance and empowerment is a beautiful thing to behold. The choice is yours. Unlock your highest potential – and start loving your life at the deepest level.

And if you want help, join my Live Free Love Life membership NOW!

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